Thursday, October 15, 2015

Luck and the Moutain *




Sometimes luck just isn’t with you. On any given night fortune in general may be riding you but situational luck not so much. On a foul weathered evening in 1982 late fall the dice just did not roll my way and they were dice I had so prayed would fall my way for so many years it was heartbreaking.

Years ago in mid-autumn I was underemployed. I was a lawyer without a paying job, hence the underemployed reference. When you leave law school they tell you that if you pass the bar you are a lawyer and that in most cases you will remain so. The money may not come but you are a lawyer. Graduating from a mid-level law school with mid level grades in the midst of a big recession was not the career starter it might have been.

My roommate was also underemployed. He had a great voice and he used it to good effect most of the time. But every now and then what came out of his mouth came out at the wrong time and in the wrong tone. He was a broadcaster who had told his boss to piss off one to many times.went on a spur of the moment tour of North American by sports arenas.

Often we just lay on the couch for hours stoned out of our gourds debating the hierarchy of fast food, McDonald’s vs Burger King vs Taco Bell. The nuanced discussion was scintillating. Once in the middle of this we had seen a blurb about one of the old hockey barns being razed or was being considered for destruction. My roommate had been a denizen of Olympia where the Red Wings played. He loved the old hockey halls.

Well we so totally and quite completely under-employed and we decided to head off in search of America via basketball and hockey venues. Damn we thought we have to go. Having seen the imminent threat to whatever rink it was we decided we had better see some of these classic places before they are all gone. Off we went. The trip was grand.

It wasn't all hockey rinks and civic centers. You might not believe this but we had breakfast at the White House. But that is another story. We saw the Leaf’s play the Blues after breaking into Maple Leaf Gardens that too is another story. And we saw the Sixers with Dr. J. play the Pistons, again another story.

We began our journey by heading off to New York City for some ungodly reason. I don’t know what it was for sure. I think my friend had a line on a possible radio gig. My memory is that we had dinner at some overpriced Manhattan bar with his contact. The job thing didn’t pan out and we needed someplace to be for a day or two. Well that was simple, my brother had a couch and how far could Vermont be from NYC? A phone call was made and it was all arranged.

Off we headed off to Bennington Vermont to where my oldest brother was living. He was an instructor at the college there and he had rented a house up in the hills. Vermont was right up his alley. He had left the swamps of Jersey and spent most of his time after in the area around Schenectady and Albany New York. These were the years prior to his divorce from his first wife.

I had gone up to New York a couple of times when marriage one was still intact to see him. He tried to be the cool brother. While I was there for a couple of weeks one summer (in Schenectady) Rosemary’s Baby came out. It was 1968 and I was twelve years old. He took me to see it. Rosemary’s Baby had tits in it. My brother was an instant god to me.

Well that marriage had crashed and burned. He had lost pretty big in the divorce. From out of the ruins he took some jobs that turned out to set forth his future path in life. Whether it started just before the marriage ended or just after he had gone into marketing rustproofing. He worked fore Ziebart and when he came out to Michigan to their corporate we would meet up. Ziebart's headquarters was about 5 miles away from my apartment.

These get togethers were happening when I was going to law school. If he was in town we would get together. We would go to some quirky buffet and eat all you could eat frog legs. Eventually I graduated into the big recession and was thus unemployed. Thank you Ronald Reagan. He in the meantime but had somehow swung this teaching gig.

Anyway after the quick phone call was to make sure he was home we headed up to Vermont. The roads were winding and wet as we tooled on up into New England. Eventually we met up with him in his cabin up the mountain. As brothers are wont to do we had to celebrate.

Celebration was not to be as easy as I thought. There was about a fifth of a bottle of scotch at the house, not enough, nowhere near enough. The bars and the liquor stores were back down the mountain. We had pulled into his place mid darkness. Still we were at the house only a few moments when the trip down the mountain was decided upon. We took his car. I think my brother had an old BMW at the time.

Back down the winding road we went until we finally pulled into an Adirondack kind of bar It was a real log cabin and had signs that glowed neon green and said Genesee beer. Being on an adventure my roommate and I wanted to drink, and drink a great deal. After a few rounds my brother who had a prior DWI decided he had to call it quits and headed back up the mountain. He offered us a ride but we declined claiming we would find a way back up on our own.

With my brother gone the drinking got serious. We were pounding back pitchers of beer. The bar maid thought we were interesting or at least humorous and we thought she was cute, well I did and that was before the beer goggles were on. We talked, we flirted, we glanced back and forth as she was pulling the tap and filling frosted mugs.

About an hour before closing time the barmaid offered me the option of staying at her place. Was I in heaven? In all my life a good looking bar maid had never offered me a shot at going home with her. Even with the ancillary offer of a couch to my roommate things were looking good.

Bubbles burst.
Balloons pop.
Brothers return.

My dear brother worried about my fate had given himself to sober up. He decided leaving me down in town when the weather was turning (and it was starting to sleet) was not the thing to do. With just a few minutes before I was going to get the girl for once he walked in and said, “Hey I am here to save you”. Like a balloon with a slow leak I deflated. My roommate just kept muttering obscenities so only I could hear it. I looked at the barmaid and she just smiled. Her eyes had that look that said without question, “Hey he made the trip all the way back down here to make sure you were safe you got to go dude…”

Who knows maybe she was a psychopath ala Sharon Stone or Glen Close. Who knows maybe she was the “one” although I seriously doubt that. But truth be told I never got that close to taking home the barmaid again.

Fortune was with me, but luck was not.

Halloween is Coming



Halloween is coming. As I walked in to the office today I heard fragments of songs from forty years ago. One after another on a bit of an endless loop they were playing in my head. Bits of old Fairport Convention, Strawbs and Renaissance tunes floated in my consciousness. All of these bands have songs that remind me of the fall season. Tam Lin by Fairport stands out as does the Autumn Trilogy from the Strawbs. 

Before several of my friends pipe up I know I should listen to some new music. In a manner I do, but the songs are not mainstream. Most days I hear one new song courtesy of Toronto’s CBC Morning program. The most recent was Johnny Reid’s Picture of You. It was pretty nice. 

https://youtu.be/amMuJBlJPE8

I digress. As I walked in this day the signs of mid/late autumn were growing quite strong. On one stoop there was a pumpkin painted white with glittery hair. On a number of porches there were pumpkins, big pumpkins. On house had not scary but clearly Halloween, scarecrows. I guess they were scarecrows maybe there is another crafter’s term for them. These broom based figures reminded me of the joy of taking my kids walking for Halloween. John Lee loved to dress up as the monsters that Halloween holds dear on its scary side. Loren, well my favorite of his was the Frank Sinatra get up when he would sing “Fly Me to the Moon” when the door opened and the candy came into sight.

As I watched the trees thinning out into skeletal frames I found myself praying after a fashion. I found myself hoping that the day would be good for all the people in the houses I passed. I longed for peace for the people I must talk to as part of my work. Mostly I tried to send off good will and intentions (vibes if you would) for the world at large. I love this time of year, it makes me happy.




Monday, October 5, 2015

October Morning with Memories Fluttering By

Mist covers the streets today; warm air is fighting the coming cold.  Side streets look like
dreamscapes.  Clammy air hangs about like damp sheets hung out on a line.


Many years ago today (although if truth be told it might have been yesterday) my father
died.  Death came when his heart gave out. A fiercely independent man, someone we
would call self-reliant if we used the old language of the hunting and fishing books he
loved, he probably had been nursing his heart condition for many years. In the end he
died in the kitchen when a heart attack



My father died when I was 27 years of age.  With his passing suddenly there was an
absence in my life, a huge hole really.  The best analogy I can come up with is that I
looked to the sky to find the North Star to guide me and it was quite simply and quite
absolutely gone.  My grief was great and I still feel the loss today.



Being alone can be a gift.  With no one to sit in judgment of your actions means that you
must begin to judge yourself.  You must come to terms as to those things you accept as
right and those you accept as wrong. Without a guide that a parent provides your errors
may be based on ignorance.  Mistakes can be immense.



Alone you may focus only on your weaknesses.  Alone all you may see is errors.
Eventually you have to learn to be a compassionate judge of yourself.  Eventually you
have to become a realistic judge of yourself.



What I do not have that I need, I must pray for and wait.  –Thomas Merton

Monday, September 14, 2015

Weekend Notes


So yesterday morning I spent time in church with Loren.  He was in the choir.  The ritual’s liturgy was a typical Lutheran Service.  Some variation occurred for this Sunday was however a baptismal event.  The young lass Lucy Grace (or if you want to chase down the rabbit-hole of word origins the child of Light and Grace) was resistant to the ceremony she pushed the Pastor’s finger away as he anointed her.  Chuckles were heard in the congregation.

 


Loren was bedecked in a white robe and sang quite nicely.  In front of the huge organ of the chapel he seemed dwarfed. Still I could hear him. His voice lessons seem to be to positive effect.  As I hear him; his range fills in where others miss.  After just a few lessons he seems to sound more confident and more rigorous in his singing.

 

Yesterday there was beautiful.  Travelling home we swung by the Indiana Dunes Lakeshore.  What a wonderful beach.  What a true national treasure.  Living in Michigan 38 out of the last 40 years I have never ventured to this beach. White sand blue lake and even bluer sky, these were just stunning. Wandering along the lakeshore we stopped to look at the Houses of Tomorrow.  The remnants of a building materials exhibition at early 1930s World Fair they were floated across the lake and placed on the southern lakeshore.  What an interesting group of homes.  My wife found the Florida beach home so very similar to hundreds of buildings that used to dot old Florida. 

 

Saturday as we traipsed around northern Indiana our local sporting team won a close game against a team from the left coast.  If was fun to see people in Valparaiso wearing some Spartan jerseys.  It was fun to see the people at the hotel sitting in the lobby watching the game rooting for the Spartans.  When I arrived back the evidence of the weekend was still here and there.  The ubiquitous smashed red Dart 16 ounce cup were to be found on every the quietest of residential streets.

 

 

 

 

Sunday, August 16, 2015

The Joy of Iced Tea



Hot days hang on forever when you are living them.  


91F and standing in the late day sun. Your neck swivels your head as far as it will turn to look for shade or liquid refreshment. Some days neither is to be found. But some days there are victories.


Today with no shade in sight your mind’s eye remembers a big old shade tree, a park picnic bench and a glass of ice tea. Sweating from the cold tea the glass is filled with ice to the brim. A wood bench painted cedar red rests in the shade ‘neath the treeHaving adjusted your butt to the hard wood seat ugo the polarized shades to the top of your head. Squinting to see through the shimmering heat on the concrete parking lot across the way you hope there is someone who might give you a ride the rest of your walk. Sure enough there's 63 Impala with all your friends ready to head off down the road.


Yeah days like that are memorable. But today there is no park, no parking lot, no ride, no shade and no ice tea.  Don’t worry you will find you way to there, to that cool shaded place, before it is over.


Sunburns, t-shirts soaked with sweat, the buzzing of insets around the bushes at the edge of the park; each one of them is a different part of the memory of a summer day.  Ice tea, well there just isn’t anything like it to refresh a body, or to quench a thirst acquired from even a short walk.   


I am a sliced lemon on the lip of the glass kind of person on really hot days.  Tartness without any sugar makes ice tea just so darn cooling.


In six months will we be begging for days like this.  Take today as it is and savor it.

Friday, August 14, 2015

Revisit

I am cleaning out my iPhone notes. I  found this. I  may have put it up before but what the hell it is great to absorb even a second time 



I do not love you except because I love you; 
I go from loving to not loving you, 
From waiting to not waiting for you 
My heart moves from cold to fire. 

I love you only because it's you the one I love; 
I hate you deeply, and hating you 
Bend to you, and the measure of my changing love for you 
Is that I do not see you but love you blindly. 

Maybe January light will consume 
My heart with its cruel 
Ray, stealing my key to true calm. 

In this part of the story I am the one who 
Dies, the only one, and I will die of love because I love you, 
Because I love you, Love, in fire and blood.

by Pablo Neruda

Be Kind in Your Mind

Best thing I heard on the radio this morning was this tidbit of wisdom. "Once we begin treating other people's lives as entertainment, i.e., when we find humor in their falls, their sufferings and their foibles as spread wide, bright and loud on YouTube we're turning people into something less than human and we really have to be concerned about that." Be a decent person today, don't click on that link.