The Speech I Gave Last Night on Meditation

Hello, I'm an administrative law examiner for the State of Michigan. 

I meditate daily. I am not afraid to admit it. What do I mean by saying I meditate? 

Well, I get to my office between about 7:40 a.m. Almost always I am the first person there. As I juggle my stuff walking in the door I turn the office alarm off. My lunch goes into the refrigerator, I start a pot of decaffeinated coffee and I go to my office.

 After struggling with my keys I set my bags down on a table. My office is windowless so I turn n a small floor lamp. After I close my door I unroll a little yoga mat behind my desk and put on some ancient music. I like ancient choruses without instrumental accompaniment in Latin. I can’t understand a damn word of it but it is very, pretty and soothing. Then I sit with my legs folded on the mat.

 For about 10 minutes while in this posture I try and clear my mind of everything. I just let all my thoughts flow by and just try empty my consciousness. 

That is the sum of my practice. I have been doing this for probably five years on a regular basis at my office. As I sit and listen to the singing I am mentally taken to a peaceful place. It calms me. Mentally it moves me into a cool calm almost holy space. In this state I let go of the world and its problems, just for now. My breathing slows and I feel real rest coming to my bones. With my thoughts clearing I can see, I can discern. 

Meditation isn’t a philosophy, a theology, an ism or any method or path. It just is. Discernment and calm, these are the things I touch when meditating. I meditate because I need a respite from stress. What kind of stress do I have you ask? 

Well let's see every day I listen to seven different people who've come in for a hearing tell me their problems. They do this with passion as they plead for restoration of their driving license privileges. People tell me about horrible things; sexual assault, child abuse, infidelity, grievous disease and failed dreams. Most people lay out this parade of tragedy to explain why they drank or drugged too much in the past. 

 Also I hear from people who killed their best friend because they flipped a coin to see who was going to drive because they were both too inebriated to be behind the wheel. Yeah it's pretty nasty stuff isn’t it. 

At about 15,000 hearings I've done to date over 15 years it still takes a toll every time. 

 And then I go home. My wife has a great job but it's pretty high stress too. So if I want to unwind by working through my day’s emotional onslaught with her as my amateur psychologist I have to do it reciprocally and take on her traumas in exchange. Sigh.

My kids well nothing stressful there. One of my children has Aspergers and the other ADD. One is like Robin Williams nonstop all the time and the other wants everyone to be totally quiet for long as possible. Do you see any disconnect, any source of dissonance. Is there I ask you perhaps the germ of stress there?

 Over time this life was taking its toll on me. A few years back I was eating achiphex like candy. But then one day about five years ago I was walking through the old Barnes & Noble in East Lansing. I saw a magazine up in the bright sunlight windows that caught my eye. It was called Tricycle. A vividly colored piece of art on the cover drew me in. The first article I flipped to had a title like “Just Sit." The article went on to talk about some of the healing qualities of meditation. Things like lower heart rate lower blood pressure better general overall health stood out as I read it. 

Throwing down my five dollar bill I bought the magazine. How was I to know I just bought into meditation? 

 The article I read simply talked about sitting. It talked about not fighting the ideas that flitted through you mind. It urged getting on a mat and just breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. Let the ideas pass by but don’t grab onto them. Don’t make a list. Let the quiet settle in. 

 This wasn't the first time I’d been introduced to meditation. I am a Delaware attorney. Delaware has a three day bar exam. Between day two and day three the bar exam I was hospitalized with chest pains. By the time I got to the hospital I was in tachycardia, my heart was at two hundred beats a minute. It wasn’t a heart attack I had a condition that is known as Wolf Parkinson White, there is an extra electrical pathway across my heart that makes it race when I'm stressed. The net impact is that when you're stressed like say standing in the court room making an argument trying to win your client some money you can faint or better yet die. 

Great time to learn your body can’t handle oral argument, after three years of law school and two thirds of the bar exam. 

 Given my career path was set my cardiologist suggested that I learn some relaxation techniques. I picked up a book called "Minding The Body Mending The Mind." It was one of the best things I ever did. In that tome I found a crash course on relaxation techniques. Breathe in through your nose slowly filling your lungs and let the air pass across your lips on the way out. Alternatively lie on the floor and relax every muscle in your body. 

These two techniques from the book have stood the test of time for me. I used these techniques for a number of years. 

However when I left Delaware and got the private practice in Michigan I was always rushed I was always stressed and I lost touch with how to handle stress. I ignored the things I knew on how to give my bodily and mental systems a break. 

Failing to meditate early in the day means I will get lost in the day. Meditation is an act that focuses my being. When I say lost in the day I mean my focus is drawn in a 100 directions and I don’t seem to accomplish anything. My prioritizations schemes all fail. 

 For me the act of centering my mind is as natural and necessary as taking a shower to cleanse my body. If I don’t take my shower say because I know I have heavy work to do that will require sweat and or exposure to gunky things (image cleaning a wet basement), my day is thrown off also. Showering just gets me to the starting point of the day. Maybe what I am saying is I like to start the day clean mentally and physically, a tabla rasa as it were. 

Meditation can be as simple as walking about and just forcing me to be in the moment. Look there is a tree. Smell the bakery. See the light glinting oddly off the windows up there. For me the bindings of stress are loosened through practice/meditation. The emptying of the grocery bag of the mind and the ditching of the daily list punches a hole through the mental garbage that can overwhelm me Meditation gives me perspective. 

Were I to hold anger or resentment about what seem to be injustices in, the dark nature of those feelings would kill me. Some days I suspect my irritations at others and at myself have already planted the seeds to my doom and that the harvest will come due soon. Maybe that sense or belief that internalizing hurt and rage is unhealthy is why in my later years I am drawn to meditation.